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Do we delete family members who cause us stress?
November 23, 2009I recently read a posting on a Facebook page. From other readers comments, I got the impression there were several people that took it personally, and thought they might be the target of these comments. Surprisingly, there are quite a few members in my own family that find this tactic of deleting everyone that causes them stress to be the norm. I for one know that there have been several times in my life, that I have caused my family to be embarrassed by my actions or choices. However, there have been just as many and in some cases more times that the shoe was on the other foot, and I have been embarrassed by their actions. In all these situations we always managed to maintain a relationship with each other. I think we all may cause our families grief, but I thought family was supposed to love us regardless of our short-comings.
I recently became a deletee. It does not matter what I've said or done to make amends with this person, there is no fixing it. Even though we may say we are Christians and are to
be Christ-like in our actions, how can we say we forgive and
then delete that person from our life? I can't remember Christ
forgiving someone and then tell them "I have forgiven you, now leave me
alone and stay out of my face because you cause me too much stress"! I
believe it states in the Bible to forgive that we may be forgiven, not
forgive others and then cut them out of our life.
I thought we Christians were different but I am ashamed to say no
one could tell by some of our actions/reactions toward each other that
we even attended church. We seem to look for veiled insults in what the
other says to us, think the worst of any little incident and that any
negatives apply directly to us. There are too many
misunderstandings, little trust toward one another, and we tend to be
too self-absorbed and touchy!
I love all my family very much and do not look forward to the day they are no longer around, or that I'm no longer here.
Too much time slips by without making peace with each other, or
without speaking to each other. If we can't get along here what makes
us think we can in Heaven? Guess some of us won't be there. I pray that
I'll be there. I believe that God has given me peace in my being
deleted, and have no bad feelings or ill will toward those who have
done so. Of course, I am looking forward to the day that things are
right between us again. So if you are full of animosity or bad feelings
toward anyone, hit your knees and ask God to give you the insight on
how to correct the things that you hold against them and to be able to
forgive, so that you yourself may be forgiven.
Wanda Fresh
Nov. 2009
Wanda Fresh
Posted In : 2009.11 "Do we delete family members who cause us stress?"
